13 ways to shift your mindset and get healthy
BY STEVE SIEBOLD
Instead of making the usual New Year’s resolutions to lose weight and get in shape, why not actually do it this year? It could be that your thinking is what’s holding you back.
Consciousness is contagious, so if you think like a fit person, you’re going to act like a fit person and become fit and healthy. But, if you think like a fat person, chances are you’re going to be fat.
Here are 13 differences between fat thinking and fit thinking for 2013:
Fat people eat for pleasure. Fit people eat for health.
Fit people see eating as a means to increase health, energy and vitality. Eating for health vs. pleasure can make the difference between world-class health and an early grave. Changing the reasons you eat will have a dramatic impact on your weight.
Fat people believe they can always start over on Monday. Fit people know Monday is never coming.
While fat people believe they can start over on Monday and succeed, fit people recognize this common psychological trap. The core belief is, “I can eat the same and get different results.” Starting over on Monday is an endless loop that keeps people fat forever.
Fat people expect weight loss without pain. Fit people know everything has a price.
The truth is simple: if you want to become thin and healthy, you will pay a price. There’s no such thing as a painless diet that doesn’t require discipline or sacrifice, and no magic pill, potion or lotion that can make you thin. You will sacrifice and call on every ounce of willpower you have. Fat people see exercise as a burden. Fit people see exercise as a privilege.
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Fat people see exercise as a burden. Fit people see exercise as a privilege.
Fat people view exercise as drudgery they neither enjoy nor place any value on. The idea of sweating and working out strikes them as a waste of time and energy. Fit people know exercise is one of the most important habits anyone can develop — and they make time for it, regardless of how busy they are.
Fat people allow failures of the past to hold them back. Fit people use failure to move forward.
One of the thought patterns fat people fall into is assuming their future will be the same as their past. They’ve tried diets, lost weight and gained it back. Fit people know the past doesn’t equal the future, and they take the same failures and use them to propel themselves toward success.
Fat people are waiting to be rescued from obesity. Fit people know no one is coming to the rescue.
When most people get fat, they blame outside factors like the food companies and restaurants and they expect something, or someone, to save them from themselves. The mantra of fit people is, “I am responsible.”
Fat people are delusional about being fat. Fit people operate from objective reality.
With a society that uses phrases like “big is beautiful” and “pleasantly plump,” we’re living a lie. There’s nothing good about being fat. It robs you of energy, vitality and enthusiasm. The delusional approach gives us permission to keep eating, while the objective reality method causes enough emotional pain to stop the destructive behaviour.
Fat people believe diets don’t work. Fit people believe people don’t work.
People have been programmed to believe diets don’t work because of the inability of the average person to stick to them and their unwillingness to take responsibility for their own failure. Make no mistake: many diets work very well. Just because an individual lacks the mental toughness to stick to a diet doesn’t make the diet any less effective.
Fat people eat emotionally. Fit people eat strategically.
When fat people feel bad, they eat. When they’re happy, they eat. For the average person, eating is a way to enhance pleasure and ease pain. Fit people avoid emotional eating, choosing to eat only when hungry. They use logic instead of emotion to dictate and control their
Fat people make choices that keep them fat. Fit people make choices that keep them fit.
All of us choose to be fat or fit. No one forces us to eat the way we eat or exercise or not. We are 100 per cent responsible for what we see in the mirror. It all comes down to the choices we make every day during meal times and exercise periods.
Fat people are ashamed to admit they’re dieting. Fit people are proud of it.
Fat people won’t admit they’re dieting because they don’t trust themselves enough to put their word on the line. Fit people tell everyone they know to create additional pressure and motivation to propel them forward when the going gets tough. It’s the tactically intelligent thing to do.
Fat people expect to lose and gain weight forever. Fit people expect to build the body of their dreams.
Expectations rule the world. Unfortunately, most people don’t expect much and the universe is happy to fulfill that expectation. Fat people expect to be fatter tomorrow and that’s what they get. Fit people expect to be in better shape at 50 than they were at 20, and that’s exactly what they get.
Fat people give into cravings. Fit people remain compliant.
Fat people treat dieting like a toy they can play with whenever they want. The truth is, your life is at stake. Dieting is not a toy, a hobby or a game. It’s serious business that must be approached as such. You wouldn’t cheat on your spouse, so don’t cheat on something as important as your diet.
Anyone can get fit and healthy. It starts with visiting your doctor to make sure you’re healthy enough to exercise, then developing the mental toughness and making the decision to stick to your diet and exercise program once and for all.
Steve Siebold is a mental toughness expert based in Palm Beach, Fla., and author of the international bestseller Die Fat or Get Tough: 101 Differences in Thinking Between Fat People and Fit People. www.fatloser.com